I got to sit in the family section for a wedding this weekend and watch and enjoy the service, rather than create or officiate for it.  It was a lovely wedding, meaningful in all the right ways.  Traditional in format, personal in content, and though it took place in a lovely, simple, New England Church there were many references to faith, but not a single reference to God.  There were blessings read by Aunt and Father, but none of them called upon a Deity of Reference.  It was a very reverent service, but never a mention of a higher power.  The bride and groom have known each-other a long time, the families on both sides already tightly bonded, were glowing with happiness and a peaceful confidence that their children were better together than apart, stronger as a team, and fully committed to each-other's happiness.  Vows were exchanged in candid honest terms and spoke of the couples desire to be gentle and kind to one another and supportive of each-other for the rest of their lives.  For this family, marriage is a reverent meaningful commitment made and witnessed by those most loved, and the blessings of meaning came from friends and family.  There was an acknowledgement of faith, the value of believing in love, the risks that must be taken to be open to love and the courage needed to support one another in love.   There were MANY tears shed, and much laughter.  The ceremony was a wonderful centerpiece and cornerstone of a day filled with joy and the tone carried right from the church to the buoyant reception on a boat, on a lake at sunset.  The themes of family, candor, love and commitment emerged in the ceremony and transcended right into the toasts, the first dances and the cake cutting at the reception.  In the end, this couple chose to tell their story, their way, in a language that was the organic honest language that resonated with their family and friends. In turn their family and friends were gifted with a sense of belonging and inclusion.  In the ceremony, when the Celebrant asked if the family and friends gathered were ready to not only bear witness to the union but to openly support the couple through the peaks and valleys of their lifelong commitment, there was a resounding spontaneous affirmation, with no need for prompting.  When a ceremony is spoken in the words and the ways of those getting married, little or no prompting is ever needed because everyone feels at home, everyone is at ease, everyone feels connected and involved, and they just know what is expected of them. Days later, many are still talking about the wonderful experience they had at the wedding this weekend. 
As you plan and envision your wedding, I encourage you to stick to the language of your love, side with the belief's of your heart and speak to the places from which you draw your strength and conviction because doing so will create a wedding ceremony that becomes the centerpiece of your day, and a memory that will last a lifetime.